How many times each year, month, week, heck day, do you say to yourself “Tomorrow will be different.” I’m going to” – (insert goal you’ve been wanting to reach for months here). You do great for a week or two, but then life gets in the way and you hit a minor setback. This brings back feelings from the other times you didn’t succeed in your goal and you give up, defeated, feeling disappointed in yourself.
I’ve been having a lot of those days lately, but I have a challenging life.
I have two sons I am trying to help become independent – one who is autistic and another who has had 10 joint replacements due to treatment 10 years ago for Leukemia. Both are trying to forge careers with no clear paths and figure out how to live independently in a place as expensive as San Diego and me trying to help them with guidance and support. There are a lot of resources out there to help them, but we have to find them and figure out the system.
Then a few months ago it became apparent that my mom would need to move from her house to an assisted living home. It took weeks to find the proper place for her and I’m happy to say she’s doing great. But it took time and energy it took to find a place and get her settled in and now I’m working on packing up and selling her items and fixing her place to sell
All of this has taken priority over my fitness and business goals. I’m not getting to the gym as much as I would like and I’m not growing my business as fast as I would like. Bad eating habits are creeping in (hello stress eating).
I’m no different than you. We all have the best of intentions. It’s not that the goal is not important or that you can’t reach the goal. The fact is you only have so much willpower and motivation reserves in your battery, and when it gets worn down by daily decisions and the stresses of life, you go into automatic mode to save brain energy and old habits you have spent years building creep in.
But the awesome thing is I can start again.
If I beat myself up I will only continue to go backwards. By being loving, kind, and understanding of myself I give myself the support I need to recommit and move forward.
So, as I sit here and write this blog and get ready to go to spin class, I am building belief in myself. What’s one thing you can do today to get back on track and start to build belief in yourself once again?